Whatever-sexual, Rainbows, and Unicorns

Pansexual?! Jeez. No. Done. How about I skip any such info about anyone? Just be you. Not loud or proud, just be you!
Toni Hoskin, May 02, 2018 at 03:44PM

Rain is condensation from the sky and I’m a black woman. Equally effected by gravity. Complex science based on atoms and DNA. My sexuality or ‘gender id’ is not your business. Don’t make your sexuality or unicorn gender my business…unless of course sex is in play.

Be who you will. I won’t like you any more or less however you constrain yourself with definitions. That’s not part of my value system. I’ll take you at face value, as a human being.

I do acknowledge and support the critical necessity of a strong collective voice in the context of social justice, the Constitution, and law.

But I’m annoyed. I’m a black woman, middle-aged, whose never been specifically proud of these attributes. Or even taught to be. I don’t want to ‘be known by the color of my skin but for the content of my character’. When worthy, I’m very proud of how I present myself as a person in what I do and say. I’m not ashamed but I’m not fixated or interested in group identification for validation.

If you need to categorize me to hear me that means you also categorize to exclude. Where do you draw the line, how large is your circle? Slippery slopes. Worthless constructs that cause twinges of discomfort for me as a member of a heavily categorized and historically violently excluded demographic.

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.

~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. March on Washington, 1963 “I Have a Dream”

So…I don’t think Bruce Jennar, Kate-whatever, is a shero.

I’ll speak the language I loathe here so we all understand: he’s/she’s a rich, successful, egocentric, privileged, celebrity. Nothing more.

Jennar enjoyed lifelong fruits of accolades, the upper class, and white-male-priviledge. He’s dedicated himself to nothing but himself. He represents no-one. Reported to have killed a mother and daughter in an automobile accident that he simply ignored. I watched a grieving husband and father on CNN asking for acknowledgement and justice, not money. Jennar was able to walk away from due process and accountability for the above mentioned reasons..

There are gender heroes, Jennar’s not one. The heroes are the brave individuals facing potential random cruelty without applause or support.

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